Meet Kirsten F. Bombdiggity, the Indiana Author Who Turned Divorce Into a Bestseller and a Bold New Life

When the Things That Used to Matter Just Don’t Anymore

So, full disclosure. I’m a woman in my mid-forties, and lately the things that used to matter so much to me just… don’t anymore. For example, when my daughter was younger, I'd obsess over every detail with her. I'd shop for adorable ruffle outfits and perfect handmade Halloween costumes. I prepared organic homemade food, pounced on every educational opportunity that came along, and the list goes on and on.

Now that she's a teen, she wears sweatpants every day, eats junk, is planning on being a Mason67 for Halloween (whatever that is), and I can barely get her to do her homework. And... I don't care. I mean, I do care, I just don't obsess over it like I used to. If she wants to wear sweatpants to school, so be it. If she eats McDonald's once a week - maybe twice, it won't kill her.

Discovering The We Do Not Care Club

That’s why, when I stumbled across a Facebook group called The We Do Not Care Club, a space for middle-aged women to share the little things in life they’ve stopped stressing about, I had to know more.

For some, it's just a fun way to throw it out to the void that they are past caring. We can all have a good laugh at the fact that their socks don't match today, and they don't give a flip.

For others who are throwing heavier things like, "I do not care that my toxic parents are mad that I'm moving to the beach and leaving them behind," into the void, it gives women validation in their decisions from those who have faced similar situations and inspires others who are facing them too. It's therapeutic and a way to release what's holding us back.

A Post That Stopped Me in My Tracks

It's always fun to see these in my feed, and I try to write encouraging things to other women. But when I saw one particular post come through, I almost spit out my coffee. I immediately raced to her profile to see if she was a Hoosier, so I'd have an excuse to interview her, since we feature people who live in Indiana.

It took some digging, and I might qualify for stalker status now, but my spidey senses were right. She's an Indiana girl, and I couldn't be happier to introduce you to Kirsten F. Bombdiggy. Yes, that's her real name.

Kirsten Post

First off, here’s the post that caught my eye:

WDNC that after my divorce, I legally changed my middle and last name to F Bombdiggity to get the stank of his last name off me. Nor do we care that I leveraged the wisdom of my divorce to write a bestseller book that has the f-bomb gloriously appear over 100 times. And we particularly don't care that I found love again with the dude who invited me to prom 37 years ago. Life is weird, y'all.

Whoa. There’s a lot to unpack here. Divorce. Bestselling author. Rekindling love. And a brand-new, colorful name.

Meet Kirsten F. Bombdiggity

I caught up with Kirsten on a Zoom call, and even though we didn’t meet in person, chatting with her felt like catching up with a very cool old friend. Her glasses were sparkly, and chunky, and fun. They were basically a perfect reflection of her vibe. The joy radiates off her, and she takes her role as someone who sparks joy in others very seriously.

What’s in a Name?

The first thing I had to ask her about was the name. F. Bombdiggity. Yes, it’s her real, legal name. After her divorce, going back to her maiden name felt like a step backward. She wanted a fresh start, and it began with her name.

Her Peloton screen name was F. Bombdiggity, and it seemed to line up perfectly with the vision she had for her life. As she put it, she runs on Jesus and f-bombs, and she wanted a name that was as colorful as she is.

Some friends warned her the name might close doors, but she says it’s been the opposite. People who vibe with her personality are drawn in. Those who don’t? They steer clear, and she’s completely fine with that. And yes, she works with plenty of doctors and high-ranking professionals, and they’re cool with it too.

A Licensed Practitioner of Narrative Intelligence

Kirsten's journey really took off when she became a student of Narrative Intelligence. I’ll be honest, I wasn’t totally sure what that meant, so I looked it up:

Narrative Intelligence refers to the ability to listen, understand, and analyze stories effectively. It blends cognitive science, psychology, linguistics, and anthropology to study how humans use stories to make sense of the world. -edgetheory.com

Kirsten explained that her work helps people become their favorite selves. Not their "best self," because “best” can come with pressure or shame. Favorite feels more personal, more doable, and it can change from day to day.

Before going out on her own, she worked for a company that provided real estate investing education to physicians and other high earners. What she found, though, was that she was often serving as a sounding board, helping them navigate stress and life decisions. She realized she was encouraging clients to shed the “golden handcuffs” and follow their joy, but she wasn’t doing that for herself.

So, in October of last year, she published her first book: Divorced After 40: A Fck Yes Guide for Rewriting Your Second Act.* Shortly after, she gave notice to her employer. By the start of the new year, she was fully on her new path.

What Does Kirsten Do Exactly?

From what I gathered, Kirsten is part life coach, part career coach, and part therapist but with a whole lot more sparkle. She plants what I am officially dubbing “sparkle seeds.” Her energy is magnetic, and even in a short conversation, you start to feel it rub off.

Clients typically begin with a 20-minute Zoom chat to talk about whatever’s on their mind. She’s worked with people going through divorce, folks considering career changes, and even those who just want the motivation to finally clean out the garage. No matter the situation, she helps clients calm and heal their nervous systems so they can move forward with clarity and confidence.

If the initial chat clicks, clients can join her eight-week quest challenge. It includes a workbook with quick 15-minute daily challenges, regular check-ins with Kirsten, and surprise “play mail,” which are customized gifts she sends to encourage silliness and fun along the journey.

Embrace the Struggles

Kirsten told me that it's not all rainbows and sunshine.  She struggles with some medical issues, and that's caused her to have to use a cane when she walks and gain weight. It wasn't part of the plan, but she's embracing it and using it as part of her story. Read her latest article, Being Fat is Least Interesting Thing About Me. 

By letting go of what drags you down - whether it’s a name, a job, or even how you see yourself - you can finally move forward and dream bigger. And Kirsten is proof. She legally changed her name, wrote a bestselling book, quit her job, and stepped into her dream life.

As Kirsten puts it: “You’re not responsible for the how. You’re responsible for the dream.”

She explained that life is like a Jenga tower. Every experience we have (yes, even the messy ones like divorce, abuse, or setbacks) becomes a block in who we are. To stand strong, we need those blocks at our foundation. Instead of hiding them, she encourages clients to see those pieces as part of their story and strength. And she always reminds them: life should be full of fun, too.

Speaking of fun, she has rekindled a spark that she found many years ago. Meet John. They went to prom and found each other years later. How cute are they?

If you’re feeling stuck and need a co-pilot for your goals, she says to find someone who can bring clarity and align with your “favorite self.” Sometimes, all it takes is the right person to hand you a sparkle seed.

Check out more about Kirsten F. Bombdiggity and her work here and take her FREE quiz: What Breed of Dog is Your Nervous System?